Taking Responsibilities
We are living in an era where taking responsibility seems to be fading. We have countless policies and long documents, crafted with increasingly complex language. In conversations, we avoid certain topics to prevent discomfort, and we often hold back our opinions out of fear—fear of upsetting others or of being labelled.
The days when we could speak openly and fearlessly about what we truly think feel long gone. In our efforts to be inclusive, empathetic, and caring, we often overlook and even excuse harmful behaviors, ultimately protecting the perpetrators. And yet, we wonder why we’re faced with more troubling news each day. Abuse and bullying are prevalent everywhere—at home, at work, even within organizations designed to protect people. They do good work, yet when you look behind closed doors you realise abuse and bullying are happening internally. It’s not easy to stand up or report wrongdoing, especially when you’re alone. I know as I have been bullied on multiple occasions.
So, what can we do?
Take radical responsibility for every thought, action, and word. We all have a shadow side, and until we face it, we won’t be able to change anything in the world around us. Waiting for miracles won’t make a difference. Acknowledging those parts that are not exactly pleasant, the anger, the jealousy, the fear, the hatred whatever it may be without judging it or pushing it away. If everyone would take responsibility for their own life the world would not be in this position..
If each of us took full responsibility for our lives, the world would be different. We wouldn’t need big words and phrases to shield bad behaviour; we could have open, honest conversations about what matters, without walking on eggshells. If we all could act like responsible adults, apologize when we mess up, and work on improving ourselves. We could create a more peaceful world. Creating a better world starts internally.
It is becoming more and more pressing to be honest with yourself.
Here are some questions that might help:
What self-destructive habits (constant socializing, overeating, drinking) keep me from understanding what’s happening inside?
Why am I trying to numb certain emotions?
What are those behaviours that I tend to overlook and explain that might be hurting others or myself?
What are those thoughts and emotions that I am tucking away in order to keep the peace in my relationships?
What recurring thoughts or emotions am I avoiding to escape discomfort?
These questions can guide us toward taking full responsibility for our inner lives. If you need more support, I’ve created a meditation to help you connect with hidden parts of yourself—just email me for details at melinda@melindagereb.com
Remember, if we want to change the world around us, we must first do the inner work, no matter how uncomfortable it may be at the start. This is the only way to create a better future for ourselves, our children, and the world. We have to do our part and take responsibility.